Uneasy
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I hope I don't offend anyone with this post, but I have to vent just a little bit.
Everyone's baby and pregnancy is their own, and everyone is, of course, free to do what they want. However, it makes me really uneasy when people share EVERYTHING before the baby is here. The main reason I did not want to share Duncan's name with everyone was because, to me, he's not here until he's here. Yes, he had a heartbeat and 2 arms and 2 legs, but having had a miscarriage, the thought was always in the back of my mind ... regardless of having had ultrasounds that showed us a perfectly healthy baby. I know it's hard not to get excited when it's your first, but it still makes me nervous. That being said, I am happy for everyone and their pregnancies/babies. :o)
And one other thing. Due dates. "Ohmygosh, it's my due date and the baby's not here. What do I do?" And the OB replies, "We'd better start you on some pitocin and induce your labor. We don't want the baby to get too big." BULL-FREAKING-CRAP. No one knows the exact DAY that the baby is conceived. Everyone is obsessed with THE DAY, including the OBs. The goal is a healthy baby, right? Then what's the deal? In most countries, they "let" you go to 42 weeks before even thinking about induction. I could write a novel (albeit not a very good one) about my frustrations with this, but I'll stop here.
I have baby fever.
Everyone's baby and pregnancy is their own, and everyone is, of course, free to do what they want. However, it makes me really uneasy when people share EVERYTHING before the baby is here. The main reason I did not want to share Duncan's name with everyone was because, to me, he's not here until he's here. Yes, he had a heartbeat and 2 arms and 2 legs, but having had a miscarriage, the thought was always in the back of my mind ... regardless of having had ultrasounds that showed us a perfectly healthy baby. I know it's hard not to get excited when it's your first, but it still makes me nervous. That being said, I am happy for everyone and their pregnancies/babies. :o)
And one other thing. Due dates. "Ohmygosh, it's my due date and the baby's not here. What do I do?" And the OB replies, "We'd better start you on some pitocin and induce your labor. We don't want the baby to get too big." BULL-FREAKING-CRAP. No one knows the exact DAY that the baby is conceived. Everyone is obsessed with THE DAY, including the OBs. The goal is a healthy baby, right? Then what's the deal? In most countries, they "let" you go to 42 weeks before even thinking about induction. I could write a novel (albeit not a very good one) about my frustrations with this, but I'll stop here.
I have baby fever.
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It made sense.
It was a vent, so I'm sure everything was not "PC," and I know there are always circumstances surrounding every birth. :o) Most people do trust in the medical system because it's what we've all been taught to do - I sure did! But education and information are so much more vital than I ever realized, especially with childbirth.
I agree with you completely and totally empathize with you.
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